What Professionals Are Saying About You Look a Lot Like Me

“You Look A Lot Like Me is a riveting documentary about partner abuse which I recommend for survivors and clinicians. The experience and knowledge shared in this film can be a lifesaver. In this film, we witness saved lives. This unflinching work counters denial and avoidance by offering hope and healing that comes from brave, honest, open engagement. By speaking out and being heard, the cycle of isolating abuse and shaming is broken. The narrative and cases in the film build on each other. Powerful insights are shared by survivors and those who are working in the field. One caveat: don’t watch this alone. This is traumatic work for all involved: for the survivors, and their caregivers–and for the perpetrators. Use this film in a study group or in a workshop. The workbook facilitates effective processing of this difficult and critical material. Thank you for this important work!”

— Steve Cadwell, L.I.C.S.W., Ph.D., Boston MA, Adjunct Faculty at BU Graduate School of Social Work & Harvard Medical School Program for Residents in Psychiatry

“You Look a Lot Like Me uses interwoven personal stories and expert commentary to paint the ugly and gut-wrenching picture that is domestic violence. This film is a must-see for any victim, family member, or professional working in domestic violence. It avoids being trite, is spot on from a practice and scholarly perspective, and has tremendous educational value akin to a three-credit course. You Look a Lot Like Me is the real deal, elegantly told.”

— Charles A. Granoff, MSW, LICSW, LMFT, Diplomat in Clinical Social Work

“In the film You Look a Lot Like Me, Chloé McFeters has seamlessly woven stories of love, betrayal, and ultimately, survival from a diverse group of people who have lived with the nightmare of Domestic Violence. She stretches beyond the norm to show us people of different gender, age, culture, and sexual orientation. She even makes the controversial, but wise choice, to include the self- examination of an abuser who struggles to understand what he has done and if he is capable of change. What comes into sharp focus for the viewer is awareness that Domestic Violence touches all groups without prejudice. We become immersed in their stories from the early stages of falling in love, to their fear, bewilderment, and shame as their partners become unrecognizable people who hurt them in every way imaginable. To educators and those who work in this field, the film puts a human face to the “Power and Control Wheel” and the “Cycle of Abuse” by submerging the viewer into the world of real people who have bravely chosen to share their stories. Whether a survivor, friend, family member, educator, advocate, or mental health professional, You Look a Lot Like Me has something to teach us all.”

— Pamela Riss, M.S., LMFT

“You Look a Lot Like Me is a powerful and informative film on the lived experience of domestic violence. I know of no other film on the topic that better covers the perspectives of diverse clients or better captures the intimate world of those caught in the cycle. I highly recommend You Look a Lot Like Me to anyone wanting to learn more about the reality of relationship violence.”

— Diane R. Gehart, Ph.D., Professor, California State University, Northridge